The Benefits of Unplugging: A Year-End Reflection

As the year winds down, I find myself thinking less on what I accomplished and more on how I lived.

This year gave me a gift I didn’t fully appreciate until I slowed down: time unplugged.

Just recently, I spent two unforgettable days in Moab with my wonderful nieces. Red rock canyons, blue open skies, and the kind of laughter that only shows up when phones stay in pockets. No schedules. No notifications. Just presence. Those days were a reminder that the outdoors has a way of recalibrating us, quietly and powerfully.

That same sense of grounding showed up again over the many weeks I spent in Maui this year. Beaches that stretch forever, waterfalls tucked into jungle hikes, long climbs into the mountains, and, most importantly, unhurried, well‑deserved rest and recovery time with my soul mate. Maui has a rhythm that doesn’t care about inboxes or algorithms. You either match it, or it gently forces you to.

Somewhere between Moab and Maui, I realized something simple but important: unplugging isn’t about escaping life, it’s about returning to it.

A close friend of mine put this into words better than I ever could when he shared his experience with No Phone Sundays. His message really stuck with me:

Been doing it for around 5 months and place my phone on my nightstand or corner of the counter (out of sight out of mind). Since doing this it has alleviated stresses I have about Mondays and starting the week in general and has promoted a good energy in me as well as excitement to start the week. Not checking emails, social media, texts has allowed me to have a day where I don’t feel tied to anything and can really focus on unwinding and resting without distractions. It’s also cultivated a better home environment with higher quality time spent with my wife and kids making the day overall much more enjoyable. Good to give ourselves a break.

There’s wisdom in that simplicity. One day. No phone. No noise. Just rest, connection, and space to reset. Are you up for the challenge? I for one will give it a go!

As I close out the year, I’m carrying this lesson forward… I don’t want more screen time, more hustle, or more urgency. I want deeper conversations, clearer thinking, stronger relationships, and the kind of energy that comes from actually being present.

If this year taught me anything, it’s that the best moments don’t come from being constantly connected, they come from intentionally disconnecting.

Here’s to closing the year grounded, grateful, and a little more unplugged! For me, my plan is to step into the next one rested, recharged, and ready.

First Comes Love… Then Comes Marriage…

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Then comes baby in a baby carriage!!

This month, my youngest child celebrated another birthday. As I gave him a hug and patted his bum the amount of times of his age (a tradition from his first birthday) I reflected on how quickly the years have gone by and thought about how it felt like it was just yesterday that I was holding him in my arms, cradling him to sleep.

How fast time seems to slip by and how I am in awe sometimes as to how I and my lovely wife made it through our children being babies, to being toddlers, to children, teenagers, and now young adults! I reflect on the good times, focusing on our successes and reminiscing on the failures and learning experiences we had in raising our children.

For those who are looking for counsel as to how to be more successful in your parenting endeavors, I would say, read, re-read, and read again,  The Family: A Proclamation to the World. It is in this proclamation, that you will find the secret nuggets of wisdom which will guide you and give you the roadmap on how to be successful. One of my ‘ah ha’ excerpts from this guide is how it states that Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness. What a profound statement!

How does one raise their children in love and righteousness? Well, there are so many opinions out there, yet for what I have found, following the counsel given in the book Successful Marriages and Families: Proclamation Principles and Research Perspectives, edited by Alan J. Hawkins, David C. Dollahite, and Thomas W. Draper (2020) and learning the Authoritative Parenting Style you will be just that, successful! I really like how the book talks about ‘Love, Limits, and Latitude in Parenting’. Check out the following excerpts:

“The first of the three characteristics of authoritative parenting is Love, or connection. Brigham Young counseled, “Kind looks, kind actions, kind words, and a lovely, holy deportment toward them will bind our children to us with bands that cannot easily be broken; while abuse and unkindness will drive them from us.” Prophetic statements such as these, supported by research, suggest that warm and responsive parenting tends to promote lasting bonds between parents and children and “felt security” within children.” (Eds., Hawkins, et al. 2020, p. 108).

“The second element of authoritative parenting is Limits, known in the scholarly literature as regulation. Finding ways to effectively help children learn how to regulate their own behavior in noncoercive ways is one of the most challenging parts of authoritative parenting. Determining how and when to tighten or loosen the reins requires considerable creativity, effort, and inspiration.” (Eds., Hawkins, et al. 2020, p. 109).

“The third component of authoritative parenting is Latitude, or autonomy. Children benefit from being given choices and appropriate levels of latitude to make their own decisions in a variety of domains. Children learn and grow by learning how to make choices within limits that are acceptable to parents.” (Eds., Hawkins, et al. 2020, p. 112).

As babies come into our lives, we become parents, and I feel that as we become parents, we naturally learn how to love our children; we naturally set limits with our children; and I would even say we naturally learn how to give our children the autonomy needed to become who they are meant to become. We need to have faith in knowing that God will direct us, guide us, and lead us to knowing exactly how best to parent our children. In the premortal existence, we were born from a loving Father and Mother and I firmly believe that our heavenly parents taught us about our divine destiny, one of the most divine callings being that of being a parent. Let us remember this and give the best that we can in loving the children that are given to us to raise in love in righteousness.

References

Eds., A.J.H.D.C.D.T.W. D. (2020). Successful Marriages and Families: Proclamation Principles and Research Perspectives. BYU Bookstore Publishing Services. https://online.vitalsource.com/books/9780842528030

The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. (1995). The Family: A Proclamation to the Worldhttps://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/the-family-a-proclamation-to-the-world/the-family-a-proclamation-to-the-world?lang=eng